Wellbeing

How to change a negative mindset into a positive one

- April 30, 2024 3 MIN READ

[TRIGGER WARNING]

This article discusses suicide and suicidal ideation, and some people might find it disturbing. If you or someone you know is suicidal, help is available. Contact Lifeline’s  24 hour call service on  13 11 14.

It’s hard to believe that I was at the lowest point of my life only ten years ago. It’s even more difficult to consider I was so deeply entrenched in the darkness that I had considered this negative state as irreversible, writes Adam Blum. motivational speaker and author of Easy Target: Taming the Black Dog.

Somehow, I knew that after I attempted to take my life that I needed to learn how to embrace a more positive mindset. I had no idea where to begin, and like most people I started by seeking advice.


Working with a psychologist sparked my curiosity about the mechanics of the conscious mind. Following her guidance, I started to make daily changes using simple, intentional goals to improve my mindset. I read about neuroplasticity, and when I began looking for mentors, their recommendations were implemented into my routines.  Here’s what I learnt:

  1. Exercise

As recommended by the most impactful people I have met, I started exercising four to five days a week, and slowly, the mental clouds lifted. It was tough, and I hated it at first, but at 166 kg with little flexibility, my body had plenty of reasons to produce pain. I had to accept that health would take time, and each day, I just kept putting one foot in front of the other towards the end goal.

  1. Meditate

Meditation and visualisation were the next methods that I added. The best version of me lies in my unconscious mind, and every small change removes me from a life of pain. I recall hearing on a podcast that you are what you think. So, if your mindset is small, you will think small, leaving you less likely to take risks or experience happiness in life. By contrast, if your mindset is positive and you think big you do big things (think the image of the cat who sees a lion in its reflection). Each of these tools had a purpose to draw me into new thoughts and a different future.

  1. Get a tribe

I knew that I could not do this on my own, and I needed a tribe to support me. People with positivity who are committed to successful lives. I knew that positive people attract positive people, and these people typically want to encourage each other to be their best version. Knowing that we are what we attract, being around people who think this way only lifted my overall perspective on what my life would be like, and I needed that desperately.


  1. Mental health checkups

I came to realise that we work on our bodies daily and often forget to prioritise our minds. Good mental health needs attention every day. Too often, we don’t prioritise it until the effects become drastic, ending up on our own virtual cliff ready to give in.

  1. Journalling

Another tool in the mindset chest is journalling. Doing this by writing your thoughts daily helps you to learn from your experiences. I look at life very differently now and I stop and enjoy all the good moments. I know that bad times will come again but I know to embrace those times as opportunities to learn and grow. Having a negative mindset, you only see doom and gloom. You can’t see these times in your life as opportunities to grow. Thinking positively ensures you don’t just survive but thrive.

From my own experience, I admit that I played the victim at times. I can see this now and how it made sense at the time. I finally recognised that while I had chosen to feel that way, I could also choose to feel differently. After making the decision to change my mindset, I now feel that I’m able to achieve more than I ever thought was possible. Change is possible for anyone, but before you can achieve, you must believe.


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